do you think You can help make someone appreciate what they have and if so how?

I was at the library when the librarian informed a woman that she had late fees for Eckhart Tolle's "The Power of Now" I said "But Eckhart Tolle says that Time an illusion that leads to suffering - shouldn't that book be exempt from late fees? K has this book and I haven't read it yet.

that is awesome Since time an illusion that leads to suffering, I would suggest buying it rather than borrowing it. This is a case of the illusion of time creating the suffering of fees.

I read it and loved it my daughter gave it to me.

Make? no Tell them what you see that you think they have and be OK with whether they accept it or not? Yes.

I don't know. According to the Buddhists, life is suffering, and suffering is caused by our attachments. I guess it's each person's journey to figure out how to find a bit of peace. Reminders may help. Or not. Or you could send the person that godawful chain e-mail my daughter's emo friend keeps spamming me with that says "I complained about my car until I saw a man with no legs..." and goes on from there.

Nooooooooooooo! Oh please no ;-o

+ infinity

Appreciating No, I dont think you really can. Because we only see as humans from our own experiences and perspectives.. Its all about perspectives, but the problem is what we see as the perfect anything most likely is not what the person that you are trying to get appreciate their life see's. We only see what is before us, but it is the other person that lives it. Now, you could try, but unless they can truly feel this it is only going to be words you are placing upon them and it will not hit deep enough to make the difference you are meaning to make in order to get them to see the other picture. Its all about learning from our experiences, and choices, whether it be a bad choice or a good choice. Does this make sense?

when I was a kid my mom took me along when she worked at a local food bank, and sometimes I went with her to deliver food to families in need. Those experiences have stuck with me ever since then.

X-actly.

Me too.

x years ago I lost everything in a fire, my income (it was my business),my pets ( they stayed there as I could not have pets where I was staying temporarily) my art and clothes (I had everything stored there as I was in transit) all I had left was a suitcase worth of stuff, two mouths to feed (my kids) and a car payment. I thought it was the worst moment of my life. Turns out it was a gift, I now value everything more than I ever dreamed possible.

I agree I'm new here but had to comment. I agree letting go of everything does make you appreciate little things. I moved a semi full of crap to Florida. But then moved to CA a couple of years ago and had to get rid of everything. I felt so free. Free of stress of what I had and needed to sort through and free of taking care of more than I needed. I still live minimally. If I find a new thing I want I replace the old and give the old a new home. I know where every paper clip is. I just moved to a friends house that was vacant since she moved to her gfs. She still has all her belongings here because her gf is a minimalist like me and wont allow her to move it all. It drives me insane. Boxes of crap she doesn't need or even know is here. And she is stressed out like crazy. Disorganized, scatter brained. I know I used to be like that. I am trying to help her a little at a time to realize. But ultimately its up to her to feel it and want to live free of it all. I don't worry about having the right china for dinner, I worry about having the person across the table from me smiling. People need to clear clutter too. Is it really important what a person wears if they make you happy? If someone doesn't appreciate who you are they are not the right person for you. You can't change them. Even if you walk away and they realize they lost everything you have lost faith in them at that point. There's rarely a good going back story. I wish at times I could place certain people in the future without the person who loves them and make them see how good they have it. Thanks for letting me chat :-) I needed that.