Seriously, I've got this friend who is in her mid-40's and has been married about a dozen years. She recently "confessed" to me that she is unhappy with her sex life. She has spoken with her husband several times over the past few years about his lack of sex-drive and he's done everything from promising to make more of an effort, to getting blood work done - and he doesn't follow through. He tells her that he loves her, that its not a rejection of her, but he just isn't feeling 'in the mood.' She says she has everything she ever wanted from marriage - except intimacy. They are best friends and they love each other. They laugh and enjoy the same things. They are together all the time - it just isn't logistiy possible that he is with someone else. Besides, he looks at her and I know he adores her. From the outside looking in, their marriage seems perfect. (Although I know there is no such thing.) She asked me for advice. Should she stay or should she leave the marriage? He hasn't followed-through with any of the efforts to address the problem, so she doesn't believe the frequency issue is ever really going to change. They've discussed counselling, opening the marriage, medical issues - he's either not on board or has no follow-up. Is it enough to have everything else? I don't know what to tell her - and she is obviously in pain. What do you think?

Is it enough? Only she can answer that question for herself.

I honestly don't know On the one hand, there is so much more to a marriage than just sex. And she seems to have those things - and appreciate them. And, an orgasm can be achieved without his help. On the other hand, there can be so much more to sex than just orgasms. Its the connection and intimacy - for me - that is just as important. I honestly don't know ... and I assume that at her age, she is afraid of not finding someone who can provide what her husband does + sex. Really, a hard .

U GOTA FRIEND FIRST OF ALL THE BOND OF MARRIAGE IS ALOT STRONGER THEN SEX SHE TOOK VOWS FOR BETTER OR WORSE AND THIS IS NOT THE WORST THING HAT CAN HAPPEN AND I WILL TELL U Y I AM A 50 YEAR OLD MAN WHO WAS IN SAME BOAT I DIDNT HAVE THE DRIVE EXPECTED BY THE GF SHE ACCUSED ME OF CHEAING BUT I WAS NOT, DUE TO THE FACT I AM DISABLED AND I WENT O DR AND THEY DID BLOOD WORK AND I CAME BACK A PROBLEM AND THAT PROBLEM WAS LOW TESTOSTERONE LEVELS WELL DR GIVES ME A SCRIPT FOR TESTOSTERONE INJECTIONS AND BELIEVE U ME IT WORKED, BUT BEFORE IT STARTED TO WORK I LEFT HER AND TO THIS DAY I REGRET IT SHE WAS HURT AND I WAS HURT. MY SEX DRIVE IS OUT OF THIS WORLD. SO YO SAY HE ADORES HER DOES SHE ADORE HIM IF SHE DOES THEN SHE NEEDS O STAY AND NOT HAVING TO LOOK BACK 2 YEARS OR EVEN MORE AND SAY WHY OR WHAT IF. I HOPE THIS HELPS

Is low testosterone level a common prob?

About a third of the population aged 45 and over. Younger men get it too, just less commonly.

Some research says low testosterone level starts at 35 and increase near 40 and falls faster after that.

Total testosterone start declining even earlier that that, but is considered sub clinical until it falls below 300 ng/dl.

Yes, but it starts to be noticeable at 35 and up she is 40 and expecting the stamina and get up and go of a teen age / late 20's sex back back.

I don't think so ... first, she's 46 y.o. -- and her husband will be turning 50 I believe. And I never said she wanted sex like when they were teenagers. She is upset because it will be weeks or sometimes months between intercourse.

As we get older, recovery time gets longer what is she doing to supplement while the sex is missing for weeks or months. I don't buy the weeks or months thing! Maybe a few weeks to a month yeah! But Months of inactivity down there?

Buy him a present from GNC, trust me it works I keep it at work and take the maintance dose in the morning and afternoon and before I go home I take x or x more. She will get sex out of it believe me, he will be horney and then she will ask him what he is taking. His loins will be hot too, it will also make up sweat at night and possibly lose weight. Drink with lots of water, lay off the caffeen and have him exercise more.