advice wanted I guess I need to give a little bit of history for others to really understand... I've had a long distance relationship with this girl for a year and a half now. Though we were not "officially together" we still acted as though we were in every sense of the word. We talked about me coming to visit at the end of the month and I had been thinking about it and thought it might be best to hold off since I know the visit would be sexual in nature and we needed to determine exactly what the relationship meant. She was against it and wanted me to come no matter what and said she wants to be with me in every possible way. She decided we should take a few days before talking to one another again. On Tuesday morning I logged in to find she had posted a journal entry online. I then read in great detail everything her and this other girl did over the weekend, just one day after talking about me coming to visit. I got all of the details and it left nothing to the imagination. It clearly was supposed to be a private entry, but accidentally posted it as public. We have talked some since then but not much and I am torn about what I should do. Even though we weren't "together" I feel betrayed, cheated on, stabbed in the back, amongst other things. I don't know what to do at this point. I love her so much and she has been a life line to me for so long now. She has been the person I when I've had a bad day, feel lonely, or just want to talk. Any advice on where to go from here would be appreciated. Maybe some of you out there have been through similar situations, etc. <x to all

unclear I'd go and talk to her. The phone is more or less useless for these sorts of conversations. You are hurt for very reasonable reasons. Try to lower your expectations about where the relationship is going. It's hard for me to read your euphemisms ("every possible way"), but it sounds as if you have not had sex, have not had a conversation about sexual 'rules' and basiy have not begun a sexual relationship with her. Thus, I don't think she should be hung and quartered because she had sex with someone else. (Her decision to post a public entry about it is another matter. And the crudest psychoanalytic interpretation would suggest that she posted it publiy in a misguided attempt to confess. (Is she Catholic? Ha). Anyway: you love her, give her a chance. But keep your eyes open, as well as your heart. Good luck.